I took a solo trip to Costco this afternoon. It was well-deserved time alone as my three active children nearly had me in tears for most of the morning today (but that's a post for another day). I stocked up on all the essentials--and then some--and made my way out to the truck.
I started loading up my purchases, some large, some small, when the man in the car next to me asked if he could help me with my water. I admit it...at first I was seriously confused. I glanced down at the 24-pack of bottled water in the bottom of the cart, then back at him and thought, You need to speak, Amy. He just asked if he could help you lift that rather heavy pack of water!
"Oh, no," I respond, "I've got it."
He double checked, "Are you sure, it's rather heavy?"
I then offered profuse thanks but assured him that "I'm used to it". I'll be fine.
He smiled and went on his way. I hefted the water into the back of the truck and was soon headed home. And now I wonder...why didn't I let him help me? I could tell he would have been perfectly happy to...and he would have saved me a slight twinge in my already-pained lower back. But no, apparently "I've got it. I'm used to it."
Am I the only one who feels compelled to be super woman? Is it only me who shuns kind offers only to feel resentful about the lack of chivalry in the world?
I'll tell you...if I had the chance again, I'd certainly let him lift that water for me. I could use a little more chivalry in my life. We all could. Sometimes it's just no fun trying to be super woman.
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I have had a couple of people ask me since I had Cooper. The way they acted was because it looks like I am still pregnant. I told them no, but wonder why people can't ask to help when I am actually pregnant? That is really the only time in my life where I may expect some sort of help (Be it with the water, dog food, letting me sit down while waiting at a restaurant etc. Don't get me started on these subjects. I could talk a while.) These, unfortunately, are the times when I don't get offered the help. Go figure. I often wonder if I seemed more helpless, would I be offered the help? I blabbing, but we are on the same page. I'll stop now.
Amen, sista. Check out my recent blog post. You'll feel better. LOL
It is ok to say Yes to things like that... Although, I never do no matter how bad I REALLY want the help. Good luck!
I think a LOT of people don't except help when it is offered. I know I don't. I always wonder why too. We are supposed to help each other out- charity,service, love one another, brother's keeper-and all that stuff. Sometimes I feel guilty for not excepting help, thinking that I may be keeping someone from getting blessings for giving service. And I know it frustrates me when I am willing and able to help someone out and they won't let me.
Why do we have the issues with getting a little help? hmmmm...
Do you ever let the people at Kohler's or Maceys push your cart out for you? Me neither :)
I actually have let them push my cart out...but only once and only because I had all my kids melting down at once. Never before or since.
I agree. Why do I/we as women want to be so independent, and then at the same time, want someone to help us out.
I would've done the exact same thing. I wonder, for me, if it's a fear of looking less independent (because that would be a sign of weakness) or that part of my personality that despises mooching.
And yet, when I read of your experience, I found myself thinking, "yeah, you should've let him help you." It's so different when you're the one in the situation.
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